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Through in-depth interviews with 28 Iranian social media users, this paper examines the reaction of social media users to the perceived death of their online friends in order to find common threads of anxieties and uncertainties among users who experienced such events. We found that subjects experience contextual, cognitive and emotional difficulties in absorbing the news, leading them to go through an initial stage of wandering before dealing with the actual trauma. Such difficulties are categorized in terms of 5 generic conditions: Conceptual Dilemma, Rational Denial, Situational Puzzlement, Relational Confusion, and Environmental Inconsistency. With ample examples, we have discussed each condition and their interrelatedness. It seems that rather than an absolute fact, the death of an online friend is understood, or felt, as a fuzzy state of mixed presence and absence, in relation to which later death events in online or even offline situations may be understood.
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Bailenson, J. N., Yee, N., Blascovich, J., & Guadagno, R. E. (2008). Transformed social interaction in mediated interpersonal communication. In E. A. Konijn, S. Utz, M. Tanis, & S. B. Barnes (Eds.), Mediated Interpersonal Communication (pp. 77–99). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9780203926864
Bechmann, A., & Bowker, G. C. (2019). Unsupervised by any other name: Hidden layers of knowledge production in artificial intelligence on social media. Big Data & Society, 6(1), 1–11. https://doi.org/10.1177/2053951718819569
Binjola, H., & Patel, K. (2020). Fake news swamping interpersonal communication in the times of corona virus. International Journal on Transformations of Media, Journalism & Mass Communication, 5(1), 416–417. http://management.eurekajournals.com/index.php/IJTMJMC/article/view/416
Blower, J., & Sharman, R. (2021). To grieve or not to grieve (online)? Interactions with deceased Facebook friends. Death Studies, 45(3), 167–181. https://doi.org/10.1080/07481187.2019.1626937
Corbin, J., & Morse, J. M. (2003). The unstructured interactive interview: Issues of reciprocity and risks when dealing with sensitive topics. Qualitative Inquiry, 9(3), 335–354. https://doi.org/10.1177/1077800403009003001
Fowler, D. R., Weber, E. N., Klappa, S. P., & Miller, S. A. (2017). Replicating future orientation: Investigating the constructs of hope and optimism and their subscales through replication and expansion. Personality and Individual Differences, 116, 22–28. https://doi.org/10.1016/J.PAID.2017.04.010
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Karkar, A. J., & Burke, L. M. (2020). “It’s your loss”: Making loss one’s own through blog narrative practices. Death Studies, 44(4), 210–222. https://doi.org/10.1080/07481187.2018.1531087
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Miguel, C. (2018). Personal relationships and intimacy in the age of social media. In Springer International Publishing.
Moyer, L. M., & Enck, S. (2020). Is my grief too public for you? The digitalization of grief on FacebookTM. Death Studies, 44(2), 89–97. https://doi.org/10.1080/07481187.2018.1522388
Rolbiecki, A. J., Washington, K. T., & Bitsicas, K. (2021). Digital storytelling as an intervention for bereaved family members. OMEGA - Journal of Death and Dying, 82(4), 570–586. https://doi.org/10.1177/0030222819825513
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Serafinelli, E. (2018). Digital life on instagram. Emerald Publishing Limited. https://doi.org/10.1108/9781787564954
Stebbins, R. (2001). Exploratory research in the social sciences. SAGE Publications, Inc. https://doi.org/10.4135/9781412984249
Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (2021). Bereavement in times of COVID-19: A review and theoretical framework. OMEGA - Journal of Death and Dying, 82(3), 500–522. https://doi.org/10.1177/0030222820966928
Thurber, J. A. (2017). Personal skype interview with the author about political campaigns.
Turkle, S. (2011). Alone together: Why we expect more from technology and less from each other. In Alone together: Why we expect more from technology and less from each other. Basic Books.
Varzi, R. (2006). Warring souls. Duke University Press. https://doi.org/10.2307/j.ctv11317cq
Westerlund, M. U. (2020). The usage of digital resources by Swedish suicide bereaved in their grief work: A survey study. OMEGA - Journal of Death and Dying, 81(2), 272–297. https://doi.org/10.1177/0030222818765807